Twenty one more days until we toss our caps and say, “¡Adios!” to high school.
It’s been a phenomenal journey filled with 2 a.m. FaceTime study sessions, praying there’s no reading quiz in Mr. Wells’ class, and struggling to find a date to Prom (speaking of — Prom? Anyone?).
This incredible journey would not have been as memorable if it weren’t for one important thing: friends.
As we go on to our next adventure called college, what’s going to happen to these friendships? Are we going to say, “¡Adios!” to them too?
My best friend is going to a school in Medford, Mass., while I’ll be spending my next four years in Berkeley, Calif. Being 3,093 miles away with a three-hour time difference is intimidating.
She was the one I went to when my ex-boyfriend broke up with me.
She was the one I texted if I was debating whether to get a dress at Urban Outfitters or not. And she was the one I called when I got rejected from Yale.
She’s stuck with me through all the ups and downs, and honestly, I can’t imagine my life without her. But, as close as we are, I wouldn’t be telling the truth if I said that I was completely confident in our friendship surviving the long-distance.
Ultimately, though, it all depends on effort. Effort doesn’t mean forcefully texting them everyday; it means checking up on them once in awhile, making sure their significant other is not a jerk and their roommate finally starts showering.
Of course, it won’t be the same – those late-night Tpumps runs, Sacred Heart buzzer-beaters, and weekend bowling, are all irreplaceable.
But as they say, “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” Seeing your friends over break will be more meaningful, and there will be more to talk about than how hard the chemistry final was.
One of my other closest friends is going to Berkeley with me, and I am beyond excited. She’s been there for me since day one, and I know I can depend on her to cheer me up no matter what happens. In this case, distance isn’t an issue, but I know our friendship dynamic will still change.
Out of the bubble that is Pinewood with about 50 students per grade, we will both find other friends who we get along with and share different hobbies with.
The point is, it is inevitable that college will affect your friendships, but you have the power to decide what you want to do with that change.
My last advice: enjoy the last 21 days with your closest friends, because you’re never going to get that time back!