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Dear Kat,

Recently my best friend has kept me on the outs. She has a new boyfriend and doesn’t seem to have time for me at all and when she does make time to hang out, she doesn’t seem to want to talk at all. It seems like every little thing I say offends her and she immediately jumps down my throat. It doesn’t feel right that I should constantly be on guard around my best friend but I feel like I have to be careful or she’ll stop being my friend for good. What should I do?

Sincerely, Abandoned Amiga

Dear Abandoned,

I’m not going to lie to you, sweetie, this situation sucks…hard. While being iced out by your BFF definitely hits high on the suck-o-meter, try to look on the bright side: you have all this free time now to catch up or get a head start on your homework, hang out in your pajamas eating junk food while watching “Three’s Company” with your parents, and you can finally get around cleaning the bathroom. However, if those options do not sound appealing to you, there are other solutions to the predicament you have found yourself in. You can take the direct route: simply approach your BFF and be blunt as heck. Some suggestions I can lend to you are “Yo, you’ve been acting totally wack and I want to know what’s up?” or “I miss you and I know things have been weird but I want to get back to the way we were” (totally cliché and mushy gushy but hey, people love that stuff). If you feel uncomfortable facing the problem head-on, you could always be passive aggressive and hope she gets the message and confronts you first, although in that situation you have less control. All in all, if you value your friendship and want to save what the two of you have, you should put in the effort now to keep something amazing in the long run.

Sincerely, Kat